Does marriage means end of a girls dreams

Being a young girl we have many dreams in our eyes. Completing our education, searching for a good job to become an independent woman . Making our parents proud is one thing which all of us want. Entering the corporate world means managing your personal and professional life. Before marriage its not that difficult. I remember my friend got her job in a different city. Got a small flat at rent used to work day and night. Maid prepared the food or most of the time eating outside no other responsibilty on her. Life was rushing and gushing around the job, targets, appraisals, presentations and promotions.

Twist in the story comes after marriage. That carefree life is over. Once you are married you have the responsibility of your husband and your new family. Settling down in a new family is difficult. You need to understand your husband his liking, disliking in every context . You may know him well but staying with a person is different from spending few hours together or talking on phone.

Let me narrate you story of my friend Meera. She was very intelligent, good looking, smart, sensible and a fun loving girl. She was independend, working was her passion. Her parents found a perfect match for her she was also happy with her parents decision. As she got married her life was changed completely. Getting up early in the morning preparing breakfast, managing the house before leaving office, taking care of her inlaws after that handling all the pressure at work, returning home late. Then preparing for dinner, meeting the social reponsibilities and then spending time with husband. She took time but was managing things well.

After a year she became more matured, she was a different person, she was not that fun loving girl. Her husband was very egoistic and narrow minded guy. He doesnt like the way she dresses, he had objection about her talking to male friends, going out with her friends and even to her parents place. Her inlays were also very conservative they were also very incooperative. She had to leave her job to reduce complications in her married life. But her sacrifices were never appreciated.

In between all these tensions she got the good news that she is pregnant. She thought things will change now. But her husband was so busy that he didnt spend much time with her, even to take her for regular check ups. At this point a woman should be very happy and should get a happy environment but she was going through a lonely phase. She gave birth to a baby boy and then found her happiness in her son.

This may be the story of many girls. How sad it is. Does her identity loses just because she is married? Just marrying a girl men have the right to play with their life, their emotions, impose their likings on her, force her to leave everyone related to her. Do they ever think if they are asked to stay in such conditions will they be able to survive? Her education her dreams means nothing to them.

Many girls are going through this pain and the tragedy is just for the sake of society they are asked to live this painful life. A women is a symbol of love, care, sacrifice and compromise. But do we ever realise that she also has the right to live her life, to enjoy, to wear what she wants, to get respect. I am not saying that all men are same. Many of us are fortunate that we have husbands who care about us, love us and our dreams and help us in every way to fulfill our dreams. I know girls who completed their education after marriage and are even working because of husbands support.

I want women who are going through such problems in life to just share their problem with someone whom they think will be able to help them. Just dont keep queit and suffer but raise your voice dont give up your self respect. He is your husband and he doesnt owns your life. Dont loose hope in life there is always a way out you just need to take the first step.

At this point I want men to change their way of thinking . Learn to respect your wife. Just like you respect your mother and sister. She is not a robot who will follow your instructions. Become a friend of your wife and your life will become wonderful