I chose a wolf because in my head, the feeling I wanted to convey cohered with the fable of little red riding hood and the big bad wolf (he eats the woman whole).
I absolutely agree with you that this can be taken both ways.
There are a breed of men today that, due to society’s unwillingness to condone their vulnerability (going as far as straight out shaming it), literally seek to consume the women that cross their paths.
There are also so many relationships where this behaviour is present within both parties, women included.
I think the real point is that these codependent and toxic relationships are far too normalized and even sensationalized, but are actually dangerous. Not to say that it’s particularly intentional on either part, just that it can be rectified.
We must do the work to identify the patterns and learn why we felt that this was love, and how we can choose differently. Often, it’s right at the heart of our wounds that we dig up the tools to heal them.
As the late Leonard Cohen so beautifully put:
“There is a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.”