Being vulnerable is uncomfortable. We show our truest selves and trust others to meet us with compassion. This requires lifelong practice.
I spent much of my earlier career hiding any imperfections and presenting what I thought others wanted. Eventually, I lost sight of my values and myself. Over time, I have invested in being present with myself and others, and finding comfort in the discomfort. When we let go of the things we fear, the way we have always done things, we can find joy.
I am often known to say at work: Let’s walk into the discomfort together and…
How to Energize Your Career in One Week
At various times throughout your career, you may wonder if you’re on the right path. Maybe you’re unhappy and unsure if the answer is a new job, or a new career entirely. Or maybe it’s quite the opposite: You may feel too comfortable or complacent in the work you are doing.
I’m a big fan of talking these kinds of questions through with a trusted mentor, however, I know that’s not always an option. …
People often ask how I have time to write. How we spend time is a choice. I feel so fortunate to share a message to be yourself boldly, use your voice, make the best decisions you can (without having all the answers) and find joy. That this resonates deeply with others makes this even more meaningful.
And though I have this clear purpose, my own thoughts can stop me from creating. I edit while I think. I edit while I type. I edit out the goodness before it is even good. A friend recommended Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott…
6 Books for Working Women Leaders
Throughout my career, I have found solace and support in books and articles by women leaders navigating the workforce. Their guidance helped me feel less alone presenting to a conference room full of men, pumping in a locked unisex bathroom, and leaving work early for my son’s school function.
Two breakthrough pieces come to mind: Anne Marie Slaughter’s article, Why Women Can’t Have it All, initiated the dialogue on whether women can be successful at work and home. …
2) Ask more questions.
3) Say what you want and need.
4) Use your voice for good.
5) Know that being authentic means being yourself, while understanding how you affect others.
6) Inspire people around you by being yourself.
7) Tell others how they inspire you.
8) Accept that the road isn’t always clear.
9) Find others who have your back — and tell them you have theirs, too.
10) Don’t write the story for others.
11) Dress up.
12) Show your work.
13) Set high standards — for yourself and others.
If you are ready to grow your career, it is time to get others involved in your journey. Mentors can offer insights from their own experiences, help you think more strategically, and open doors. Some mentors stay with you throughout your career, some are with you at a particular job, and some for one project. Some mentors choose you and some mentors you choose for yourself. Here are the steps you need to ensure a positive mentoring relationship.
Know What You Are Looking for From a Mentor
What does having a mentor mean to you? If you invite someone to…
My bookshelf tells the story of where I have been and where I am going as a leader. The first business book I recall reading was The 360 Degree Leader by John Maxwell. I remember feeling like it gave me a roadmap for how to be successful at work.
I search for books to help me think about new approaches to leadership, and to deepen my understanding of concepts that are important to me. I like to say that I have an article or book to suggest for whatever ails you. …
I’ll never forget the time I spent several months preparing for a potential promotion by role playing the conversation with a friend who was in the same industry as me. She coached me on my responses and pushed me to be specific and firm.
After all of those months of prepping, I still botched the negotiation. In the moment the offer was made, I asked for a bit more, but not nearly what I had been planning to ask for, nor what was reflective of the role.
I spent many years catching up to the salary I should have been…
At the beginning of each fiscal year, I ask my team to write letters to themselves. The letter, which includes their accomplishments and personal goals, is just for them; they don’t have to share it with anyone else at any point. They seal the letters in envelopes and then I hold them in a locked cabinet until the end of the year when we open them together.
Writing the letter is an opportunity to pause and reflect: to celebrate progress, to recognize your strengths, to commit to what you can do to improve, and to stay focused on where you…
We sat around the table discussing staff recognition. My boss, who deeply believes in the value of recognition, wanted us to come up with ideas to celebrate the team. The end of our fundraising year was fast approaching on June 30th and it was on my mind how much everyone had rallied, this year in particular. I had joined the organization 10 months prior and the team had embraced change in a big way. We had accomplished so much together and it seemed fitting to celebrate the year.
At a previous organization, my dear colleague, Jen, and I would spread…
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