Shannon Callahan
Nov 3 · 2 min read

Oh god, I thought I was the only one…

I always tired of hearing the dread question thread — “Why do you don’t have a girlfriend? I mean you are all a handsome and capable person. What did stopping you from having one?” from my parents and friends.

My excuses evolving from one to another as time passing by. As my dating and confidence have gotten rusty over time…My excuse started like “I’m just weird to I’m not rushing to I’m always busy with work to whatever”. I do getting tired of my lack of motivation and efforts going wasted when I know there’s a ton of rejections and failures up ahead on the road. For example, I tried several different dating apps like bumble, tinder, and coffee and bagel kind of thing. I gave each of them a month trail and yet none of them got a hit for me. As you can see how the progress doesn’t go too well for me. That’s one thing of many things that going on in my life. Also, seeing all my friends have much more successes in the world of dating and relationships. That somehow made things worse for myself by being under pressure to meet some kind of benchmark.

Right now, I just turned 30 with like a month of teenager flopped relationship experience. Sometimes, it does worry me that my lack of experiences in relationship or dating would derail me out of any attempt with women. Everybody always says “Hey, it does take a time for it to form into something.” Hell, time is moving darn fast as we age with our lives. Even my relatively relationship-less loneliness is killing me in the long run. Before you start to wonder if I have sex before. Thank god yes I have experienced sex before. Still, the relationship would be a more exciting adventure for me…if I will have one someday. One day…One day…

-Forgive my bad English grammar if it bothering you. Sincerely…

    Shannon Callahan

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