Technology Bettering Relationships
The way technology has affected us can be viewed as having a positive influence on relationships, helping people connect from all over, and others see technology as ruining personable connections. Although there are some negative aspects that technology gives to relationships, the positive benefits in my opinion, out weigh them. Technology has allowed lovers, friends, and family, to stay in touch with the help of Skype, social media, and even with mobile phone calls.
Things are definitely done the way they used to be back in the, as my parents would say. My mom always tells me the story of when my dad went off to college and would call my mom every night after nine because it was cheaper, from his dorm public phone, just to talk for a couple minutes. They would also write letters back and forth to each other everyday to make sure they stayed together. I cannot imagine what that must have been like, not having a phone where I could just text someone to see what they were up to, whenever and wherever. So is writing letters more personable and passionate, or is how people did things in the ‘olden days’ outdated and overrated. Has technology just made it easier to upkeep relationships and not diminish personal touch? I wanted to see how technology really has affected relationships, so I did some research. What I found, is that there are a lot of mixed feelings about the topic, and different data that supports or bashes technology in relationships. The article Technology’s Impact on Social Relationships — The Data May Surprise You!, by Tom Dellnew writes about the worry that humans are becoming more isolated with all the time we spend interacting with our screens. The article actually states however, that yes technology is changing the dynamics of relationships, but not in negative ways. “research suggests that users of technology tend to have more social relationships and that these relationships are more supportive and more diverse.” However, The Effect Of Technology On Relationships, by Alex Lickerman, worries that the online addiction is allowing people to have difficult conversations that should be done in person, not in person anymore, taking a lot of empathy away from our expressions. “I’ve also observed people using electronic media to make confrontation easier and have seen more than one relationship falter as a result.” Writing out emotions such as ‘LOL’ to express laughter does not have the same affect of actually hearing the laugh.
With all the information we need at the tip of our fingers, we live in an age that is unlike any other era. Huffington Post in their article This Is How Technology Is Affecting Your Relationship, states “A 2014 Nielsen survey found that the average American spends 11 hours on social media, and more than half of that time is spent looking at a smartphone or tablet.” That is time spent that could have been spent with real people making personable connections. The rest of the time we have our phones attached to our hips so we can always text, or call people whenever. Funny how this is, but the more we are connected, the more we are disconnected. Ronnel Morris in the article How Technology Effects Our Relationships, writes that technology causes some communication issues. “Instant messaging and texting take the gold for most misinterpretation. Most of the time, instead of asking for clarification (or calling), we automatically assume when words get misinterpreted. “ This is true, and in this sense technology has had negative effects on relationships mixing up messaged, potentially creating a lot of turmoil.
With all of that said, and with all of the research, I still am convinced that technology has made relationships better for the most part. Without it, long distance relationships and staying in touch with your friends and family would be a hassle and not as easy. Virginette Acacio writes in The Benefits To Face-To-Face Communication, about how this type of communication is effective and meaningful. She says that things get done faster, and responding to non verbal cues are easy those cues are more easily picked up on when the person can see someone talking. Technology today has made it possible for these personable conversations even when people are not in the same room, or even maybe the same country. Having more means to have these conversations available and accessible cant be a bad thing when it comes to relationships. Therefore technology is really for the better and has helped in maintaining relationships throughout the years of innovations.