Are your boundaries built from love or fear?

Shannon Stoby
Sep 6, 2018 · 3 min read

There is a difference between boundaries and walls. It is a nearly imperceptible difference to the casual observer — even from the inside.

Perhaps especially from the inside.

I spent a long time believing that I had good boundaries. I was pretty good at saying ‘no’ when it suited me. But I have come to realize that sometimes my no is not always coming from a boundary-ed place.

Boundaries are made from self-love; anchored in self-worth. They stand firm in the knowledge and conviction of how you will…

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