Yes, my mom does really just want to see me as much as possible but, uh, she also likes gifts. And just because flowers are gendered doesn’t mean she doesn’t like them. When I can see her, I hang out with her and give her a gift, but when I can’t see her that day, I send flowers. I guess my mom is just really basic! Certainly if I said “I can either spend time with you or give you gift” of course she’d pick time with me but why not both? One thing that has always bugged me, as a creative person, is that she never has liked anything homemade. There is something about going to the store and buying a card or a gift that has meaning for her so I respect it!