ALL ABOUT LEMONS

Sharath Sreedhar
Aug 22, 2017 · 3 min read

Its morning. You are awake and as soon as you open your eyes you know what to do for the day and how to do it and also how everything will work as you expected. No lag, no clutter, just the flow of energy within. This is the ideal flow of life. Regardless the day has a smallest of the job such as cleaning your desk or giving a seminar in a roomful of 500 people, the flow is on. Once the day is about to end, you rewind and acknowledge what went best and what could be improved for the next time.

Given the above examples where one is considered a rudimentary task such as cleaning your desk and the other is considered a responsibility of giving a seminar. If you actually look at them there is an equal chance of you screwing up both of it. Still which one do you think will have a greater impact on your confidence if you mess up, a bad desk cleaning skill or a bad seminar? Yes, it is the bad seminar. How’s your life after a bad seminar, nothing has changed in reality, you still have your identity , no one will send you to prison, you won’t go bankrupt, you won’t be asked to fight in a gladiator match. YES, maybe you forgot some content, maybe you repeated few words, but you could just look at the slide and read it out and move on. Instead what the brain does, think on behalf of all the 500 people at the seminar and tell yourself 500 times that you are stupid to have done a mistake and build a wall around you that is so strong and tall that you either can’t break it or jump above it and stay there till infinity. All you could do is to wait for outsiders to come and rescue you from this self-built prison.

Let’s take the other example, you arrange books and pens on your table haphazardly, missed a spot of dust to be wiped and what’s the outcome of these mistakes, loss of dignity and pride? Nah, just a messed up desk which can be re-arranged without a second thought. Why can’t we apply the same thought process for other things in life? It is true that somethings have greater importance than others, but placing grave importance on few things might be lethal for your personality, self- confidence which are of far greater importance in the long run. It is important to preserve the aspects of what makes you YOU and nurture yourself rather than evaluating the events in an imbalanced way. Acknowledging and embracing the actuality of life gives a new sense of freedom and sense of direction that lets you not dwell on things that suck your energy nor on the things that blind you with a greater sense of correctness. Whatever the mistake is, learn, correct and move on. Because, life happens anyways, with you or without you. It’s up to you to decide and make life happen for you.

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