Quit screwing yourself over

How many times have you gone to your friends to complain about this person making your life a hell? Well, that’s not where the issue is. The issue is that you go back to the same person and keep entertaining the toxic relationship yet again, for the 9th time this year. What is it about them?


My two cents. The other person is honestly not the issue here. You are. You are addicted to the drama that you need to keep going back for more. Why else would you be screwing yourself over and over? It is your fault for not cutting the cord. It is your fault for not doing anything about it. Honestly speaking, there is always a way. Is the way always easy? Oh hell no. But it doesn’t matter how long the plan/way takes, it is a solution and it is definitely better than doing nothing.


Ps. No, I am not going to apologize for the truth ball above. It is not even a matter of sides or this being my opinion. It is plainly the truth. I will also be practical enough and give you a roadmap.

You start by imagining a life without the drama and toxicity. Be bold enough to stay with the thought long enough. Most of the time we are even more scared of imagining the reality of our desires. It always feels unattainable. Well, Goddamnit you deserve love. You deserve all the good things that life and the universe have to offer you. You then make the decision. But that’s not all; if it was that simple wouldn’t everyone be doing it? You need to work towards it. It is a journey, not a marathon. For this reason be patient with yourself. Take a day at a time. It does not happen overnight. Above all, be wary of relapse. It will get better one step at a time.

What are you doing about it? Yes, a bad thing happened to you. Oh yes, there are many bad people out there. But are you going to stay stuck to that reality? Sure your job sucks. I hear you brother; you say your friends are the worst? Do something about it. You are not powerless. Take your power and conquer. You are deserving of everything that is pure and beautiful.

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