They won’t tell and you can’t ask.
I hate to say it, but I’m half way convinced these idiots do this sort of thing because they figure out you’re a same sex couple on your honeymoon and they want to be obnoxious in any way they can. I don’t know if it occured to you two that this might be a few conservative sons of bitches finding a way to make your lives miserable by acting out on regs, but most pilots are retired military from before don’t ask don’t tell, and it often shows when they get to use their discretion.
I am sorry to suggest it, especially since I haven’t even been able to say congratulations and blessings to an old friend. But there it is. Love you. I’m so sorry.