Resolve what? Stop asserting that YOU are the problem

Resolutions are nothing but empty promises

So, I’m just going to cut to the chase. It happens every 365 days. On the 31st of December, maybe even before then, you…yes YOU, make these lofty resolutions that lead to nothing but empty promises. YOU “resolve” to do the normal things:

  1. Lose weight
  2. Get a better job
  3. Manifest a business idea that’s been collecting dust on your laptop
  4. Find love
  5. Go out more
  6. Spend less
  7. Save more
  8. Work on a holistic “you”
  9. Attend a church service
  10. Support more local events

and that list goes on and on, and on…problem is, it’s the same shit you said last year and the year before. Soooo…what’s good? What’s going on with your resolutions? What stopped you from “resolving” the things you wanted to “improve” in your life? How is it that everyone else accomplished what they set out to do, and you didn’t? It’s very simple.

They have GOALS.

Here’s the issue with resolutions; the term puts forth the energy that you have a problem, with yourself, that needs to be “solved,” but no real solution in place. Once you’ve jotted down the list to “resolve” whatever it is you feel it is you need to do, what’s your action plan? Yes. Action plan. If you’re going to achieve something you need a plan, right? Doesn’t your boss give you a work plan, don’t you have a business plan for your business? Are you not a machine that needs to be oiled well to run?

Have a plan.

In order for you to accomplish this laundry list of things you want to “resolve” in your life….you know what, scratch that.

Stop trying to resolve stuff. Let’s change the mindset here. You want to have S.M.A.R.T. goals with achievable outcomes for your life. There’s nothing wrong with having a life plan. You want to lose weight, what steps are you taking to do that? How many times will you be attending a gym session, a class? Will you be working out at home? What’s your food regimen? Have you thought about clean eating, becoming vegetarian or decreasing the amount of meat your eat per week…per month?

Yes it’s a lot, and so are the resolutions that you never resolve. Insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results, so why continue to waltz in and out a revolving door? You are author of your life, change the narrative. Let 2016 be the year that you accomplish GOALS.

A quick tip: make a vision board. When you see your goals everyday, they become embedded in your mind. Reviewing your vision board daily, specifically before you go to bed, and checking it against your goals is the ideal way to achieve the things you want to accomplish.

My 2016 Virtual Vision Board via Pinterest

There are many ways to create a vision board. I have a virtual one via Pinterest, but I’m also going to create a physical one. All you need is poster board from the dollar store, and all those magazines you subscribe to monthly but don’t read (yes I called you out). Get some scissors, some cute markers or colored pens, and get creative.

There’s an art to planning and really manifesting what it is you want out of life. If you’re serious about making life changes that will impact your future next year and beyond, stop making dead end resolutions and really put a plan in place. On the helm of my 30th birthday, I created a “strategic plan” for my life called 30 Pearls. I wanted to turn it into a program — but y’all know how life is. I still have the write up I did at a 24-hour Starbucks, during finals, while I was in grad school. I’m not afraid to admit that I only got through the 3rd quarter with my goals. My issue has never been planning, it’s implementation. The key to all this stuff is vision, goals, outcomes, strategy, implementation and DISCIPLINE. Without discipline, all this cute planning stuff fades, which is probably why you haven’t resolved or achieved anything (and truth be told…me too).

So what’s gonna be? Continue your resolutions and get stuck doing the same thing December 31, 2016? OR, join me on these goals and outcomes, get disciplined and get shit done.

Hope to see you on the other side of your dreams.

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