Thank you, Lily, for putting to words what I never really could. I used to coordinate a crisis hotline. Everything you’ve said here is exactly spot on.
The truth is everyone in life needs this sort of connection. I really believe we can never achieve true intimacy with another person without this mutual steering in together. We know trust is at the base of love but I think most people don’t know this….this steering into pain is also at the base of love. You cannot achieve it without it.
Fantastic piece.