Face Your Faults

Sheenam
Sheenam
Sep 5, 2018 · 4 min read
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Before Starting, I want to ask you, Do you like Winning or Losing?
Everyone’s head must have responded with “Winning”, right? Yes, of course, saying no would be stupid.

Have you ever heard talks of the people who don’t have jobs, they just spend their time drinking alcohol and are desperate to tell others why they are at this stage? These people are eager to share the situation that wrecked them. They usually say something like “I was rich, then I lost everything”, “My business partner cheated on me, so I am here”, “My Husband/Wife is responsible for my this condition”. These people are ghettos or we can say below average. Then comes Mediocre, who feels defeated and has accepted “fate”. They are also like below average people who have surrendered to defeat but in a socially accepted way. Then comes the toppers, top men in every field who never settles for less. All of them, Mr.Below Average, Mr. Mediocre and Mr.Topper have many things in common except one — response to defeat.

Below average people blame others for their failures, mediocre blame their fate for what they have now but can’t achieve more but toppers stay far away from the blame game. They believe if they have fallen down they have the power to rise again and fly. All it takes is your viewpoint, how do you see a situation. Toppers see it differently. They bounce up, learn a lesson and take experiences and move upwards.

A friend of mine from a very poor background whose parents couldn’t even afford three times food a day. He wanted to come out of this situation. He wanted to study, his strong desire made him work extra hours in restaurants, hotels, cleaning toilets, rooms and food utensils. He worked overtime to pay his fees. I asked him that it must be really tough and hard for him and had taken a lot out of him. But he replied, “No, it hadn’t taken anything out of me, but all those days had put something in me, I have learned a lot, if my condition was different at that time then I might not be where I am today”. That friend is my Boss.

If you are going through setbacks in your life, if you are encountering oppositions and discouragement, don’t lose hope, don’t surrender yourself to them. All great people born till date have reached heights because they never surrendered from their setbacks. Elon Musk, CEO of SpaceX and Tesla, would not have been one of the powerful people on this planet if he would have surrendered at the time of his failures. In 2006,2007 and 2008, his three rocket launch was failed due to explosions and critical failures. His both companies were on the brink of bankruptcy. At that time of his lows, failures, and problems, if he would have stopped then his fourth rocket launch would not have been a success and he won’t be the CEO whose company’s worth is about to reach $24 Billion this year. Walt Disney was fired from his job for “not being creative enough” and then he started his own studio which went bankrupt. We all know what he is now.

It is not possible to achieve success without meeting oppositions, hardships, and failures. Instead of saying, “Here is another reason I am a loser”, view it as a way to success. No failure goes without teaching you anything. Be objective. Look at yourself as a third person and see the weaknesses that you never noticed before. If you know your weakness now, go and correct them. See your setbacks as a way for improvement. Even if you lose your job tomorrow, see it as “Here comes a way for a better life” instead of being stressed upon that situation.

If you are stuck, try a different approach. You don’t become better at something by doing it the same way every day. If you lose, face your faults, look at yourself, where do you lack? Once in a singing competition, a lady named Ms. Sing lost the auditions. She told to judges in a bitter voice that she expected to hear that she was the best among other girls and that the verdict was unfair. Her teacher later said, “You should have enough courage to face your faults”. Ms. Sing could not sleep the next few nights as those words from her teacher were haunting her. She asked herself, why did she fail? How can she win? She put a thought on her performance and tried harder to find her shortcomings. She realized that her vocal range was not as good as it had to be, she has to practice more.

Being self-critical is constructive. Don’t run away from your faults and weakness because those are the ones that will make you a BIGGER WINNER.

Quick Review:
1. Learn from your failures
2. Don’t blame situations and people for what you can’t do.
3. Be self-Critical
4. See the good side of everything and conquer defeat

PS: Inspired by David J. Schwartz, Ph.D.

Any suggestions and thoughts on it are welcomed. I am here to share and learn. Let us grow together! Thank You ☺

Sheenam

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