Hi Scott:
Thank you for posting this. Your topic hits close to home. I lost my parent, whose age was 15 years your senior, to stage 4 colon cancer. I read the same diagnosis outcome curves over 10 years ago, and feared sharing with her. She found out when she developed jaundice, and 2 years later, she departed.
It is true that so much of the battle will be psychological, and truly, just by the act of posting, you are making a positive impact for yourself and others. As tough as this experience is, and as tough as it is to face the possibility of a dire outcome, it will enrich the lives of your children and family, too, because everyone will be living in the present.
As a child who had to come out of losing a parent too soon, it was hard, and depressing, but I, and my dad, found purpose and happiness once more. I can share that it was easier for me, and I was no longer a child at her death (21), but my dad also has found love once more, and hopes to be married before end of year.
My recommendation is for you to find a balance between securing a legacy and sharing meaningful experiences with your family.. But also know too, that it’s okay for you to also take time for yourself to heal. Rely more than perhaps ever before, on family and extended family.
Stay strong, and wishing your family the best,
S