We’re all kind of grieving right now.

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Hi there, my beautiful Grief Growers —

The world is totally wigged right now. People are getting sick, and yes, people are dying because of coronavirus. It’s a strange time to be alive (side note: we’re only three months into 2020?!)… and it’s also a strange time to be grieving.

I don’t have any words to fix what’s going on or alleviate the swirling anxiety about the state of things. All I can say right now is that THIS FEELS A LOT LIKE GRIEF. …


Five helpful tips from a griever-turned-florist

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One of the most memorable gifts I received after my mom died was a beautiful hydrangea plant from my senior thesis class. As soon as I opened the box and read the card, I knew that all ten of them pooled their cash to send me something gorgeous at the worst moment of my life. Even though the hydrangea died (not enough light in my north-facing apartment), the gesture still sticks with me.

Years later, I became a florist and suddenly I was on the receiving end of calls like the ones my classmates made—calls from the friends and family of a grieving person looking to send something beautiful at the very worst moment of a person’s life. …


Latch on to validation, comfort, and hope in the aftermath of loss

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After my mom died in 2013, I struggled to find anyone around me who “got it” and really understood how I felt about her death. I turned to books as sources of wisdom from others who had experienced life-changing loss. Reading gave me stories I could insert myself in to comprehend my grief and words to describe what was happening that I didn’t have previously.

I still read stories about grief and grieving people because every single loss is different… and the vocabulary we use to describe grief is evolving and growing all the time.

Below are the best grief books I read in 2019. If they resonate with you, add them to your reading list or consider gifting them to someone you love who is grieving.

5. Permission to Grieve by Shelby Forsythia

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(I would be remiss if I didn’t start with the book I published this year.) Permission to Grieve is part-memoir, part-self-help, and really dives into the radical idea that each and every one of us has an innate permission to grieve. The book guides you to release the grieving person you think you “should” be, get in touch with your grief and your heart, and express your grief in a way that feels right for YOU. Keep an eye out for “Pause Button” sections that offer thoughtful journaling prompts on creating room for grief to show up in your life after loss. …

About

Shelby Forsythia

Author of Permission to Grieve and podcast host of Coming Back: Conversations on Life After Loss ♥ www.shelbyforsythia.com

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