Black Women, promoting violence against Trans women harms the ENTIRE Black Community.

If anyone has been paying attention to the Black entertainment sector lately, then you have heard some of the controversial statements made against trans women by Lil’ Duval on The Breakfast Club and Cardi B just to name a few.

In the interview, which I will not be posting, Lil’ Duval essentially said that he would kill a transgender individual if he found out about their true gender. Transphobic and homophobic Black men are, unfortunately, not unusual in this community, but what is unfortunate and disheartening is the response by Black women.

Now Black women — like most women — tend to LOVE ourselves some gay men. I remember in high school watching as Black girls, gay and straight alike, would walk arm in arm with their gay BFFs singing Beyonce at the top of their lungs, laughing, and having a grand old time. I also remember a certain individual who was beloved by all the Black girls named Jamie (I won’t use his real name out of respect) and Jamie was that bitch. He wore the flyest clothes, his hair was laid, and he could pop his lips and bounce his booty with the best of them. At the time, nobody knew what to really make of Jamie. Keep in mind this was the early to mid 00’s and we had just began to have a passable understanding of what ‘gay’ was, let alone transgender. I myself, don’t even know what Jamie identifies as, but by todays standards, many would consider Jamie transgender.

All the same, Jamie is very much beloved to this day and, thank goodness, still very much alive.

I can’t help, but wonder if Jamie were to get a sex change, would his friends still love him? And would his family still support him?

Well for women like: Tee Tee Dangerfield, Ebony Morgan, Eva Le’Ray Barrin, Sherrell Faulkner, and Brenda Bostic, to name a few, the answer is YES.

Just one look at these tear-filled faces and heart felt laments on social media will tell you that these women, were human beings with feelings, families, and friends that cared about them, laughed with them, and loved them. The disturbing thing about these deaths is the overwhelming majority of BLACK transgender women that were the targets of violence.

Now, you may never view trans women as ‘real women’ you may never call them women, but the fact of the matter is, these individuals identified as women so much so that they go through great pains to transition into their womanhood. These women voluntarily go through a second puberty just to feel comfortable in their skin. They take painful hormone shots that can be hard to come by, learn how to do their hair and makeup, learn how to dress feminine, and often times look to their close cis-gendered female friends as inspiration and guides. These women give up their male privilege voluntarily just to be who they truly are.

When these women are lying in their caskets beautifully dressed and impeccably made up as Chyna Gibson was, you are looking into the face of a woman who worked hard to be her truest self. You are looking into the face of a Black individual who identified as a woman. You are looking into the face of another Black woman whose light was snuffed out at the hands of Black violence at the hands of a man like Lil’ Duval who values life so minutely that he would rather be a murderer than let someone else live in their truth. The sad fact is that whether you view Black trans women as real women or not, the violence perpetuated against them lines up disturbingly well with the violence perpetuated towards Black cis-gendered women at the hands of Black men.

Black women experience domestic violence at almost 30% higher than our Caucasian counterparts. We are just below Indigenous women (who unfortunately experience the highest rates of domestic violence) when it comes to domestic and sexual violence statistics.

Black women, this is not OK. It is not OK to allow the mentality of men like Lil’ Duval to be normalized. It is not OK to allow someone to respond to something they don’t understand or agree with violence, rape, or murder.

To perpetuate violence against our trans sisters is to perpetuate violence against all Black women and all of the Black community. This support of toxic masculinity needs to stop before it destroys us all — literally.