Oh my god, thank you! It’s actually oddly validating to realise that I’m not the only woman that thinks this way, and that it’s not the “reality” — it is something that I can overcome.
This is now on my “to do” list. I keep a spreadsheet that tracks submissions and upcoming deadlines (calls for submissions that are time-sensitive) etc. I have a column for “response” (accept, reject, resubmit, no response) — I’m adding an extra one right next to it for “if resubmit, by X date” (X date being max 2 months out).
This has really helped me. Thank you so much!!