I am so sorry. I first had this explained to me decades ago by some kind and charitable black friends and you’d think we would have made more progress, but I don’t know that it’s changed a bit. I’ve tried to pass the message on (“You know your token black friend? You can’t just extrapolate her views to the entire rest of the race!”) but people rarely seem to get it. I feel like this is such an important point — for blacks obviously, but also for whites — but I don’t know what the solution is or why people just can’t see it. Anyway, I’m sorry that while I have the luxury of pondering about it, you have to live it. For the record, I am So impressed with Anyone who can be an astrophysicist!