This is very refreshing. It’s funny, how education is validated by a job and then one’s stability, by marriage .

Indeed, one shouldn’t marry because “it’s time” or because “social approval is required”. I remember having this discussion with one of my colleagues. He was explaining how humans are inherently polygamous.

This shocked me so I asked him what were his views on marriage. How he described it is very interesting. He defined marriage as a economic concept wherein two partners get together to “build a better life”. He further exemplified his stance by talking about animals, and how they mate. He said it’s the same concept, the pigeon couple up, they mate, the male pigeon will provide food to the female and baby pigeon ….etc all…

So, basically, it’s convenience. That is the logic/underlying principle that the society has when it reinforces marriage. Ofcourse in an ideal, utopian world, love should be the only reason why two people decide to stay together. But then again how eternal is that feeling. Like you said, humans are fickle minded and weak. We are so, because we evolve, our thoughts are constantly changing and so do we as a person, right? At times, the changes in my own thought process jolt me. Imagine how it would be to spend your life with someone who is inherently dynamic.

I couldn’t help grinning when u enumerated your required preconditions for a live in partner. Hope you find her. And the point you made about failed “functioning marriage” too is very important. Specially, in the Indian setup where divorce is still a “taboo” and a divorced woman is looked down at, worse considered characterless.