Oh Cindy, I am so sorry to hear that. While we can only hope that the people around us will be patient with us, the reality is that because everyone reacts so differently, it can be so hard for friends to understand where we are coming from too.
It is surely a difficult time for you, so be kind to yourself, and be kind to the awkward people around you who may not know any better.
I remember a few days after we buried my brother, I returned to school, and as I walked into class, my lecturer said to me “I’m so sorry for your loss, but what to do.. Life goes on.” His words cut like a knife, but I knew he really didn’t mean it, so I bit my lip and carried on. There are a lot of well meaning people who have only their own perspectives to empathise from. Or perhaps some people are just lousy with words and expressing themselves… Keeping that in mind helped me not to lose my cool many times.
I hope you have sought out the company of individuals who can resonate with your loss. And if you haven’t found any in person, the great interwebs have ways of connecting people — just like how we are now connected as well.
Please know that you are not alone.
