The Most Important Thing of All
When it comes to our kids, we must remember the most important thing in the world.
It’s not grades, SAT scores, college readiness.
It’s not staying out of trouble, perfection, getting a job.
It’s not extra curriculars, resumes, letters of recommendation.
It’s not “out there” anywhere. It’s so easy to get lost distracted by the other stuff dancing in the periphery, but it’s right here and now.
The most important thing is quality time with the people you care about.
Connecting with our children.
Playing with them. Laughter, fun, smiling freely, joy, gratitude, getting lost in the moments.
Hearing them. Talking, listening deeply, truly hearing.
Seeing them. Seeing and valuing their unique strengths, curiosities, talents, passions, interests, gifts.
Seeing their best and noticing. Again, noticing.
Unconditionally loving them. Holding a safe space for our children to be loved and supported exactly as they are at this moment.
Holding space for one another to feel and process all feelings openly and safely.
Creating experiences of belonging. It’s what we all need.
Simply connection and presence. Presence. Presence.
Every day of this life is precious. Our actions reflect our priorities, so take time every single day to connect meaningfully. And make time every single week to do something really fun. During these times, no school talk, no lectures, no electronics, no shame, no negativity.
Just connect meaningfully.
The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities. -Stephen Covey