Imagine love being represented as a piece of string. The love/intimacy/ connection is a piece of string being held by two people on opposing sides. Its the energy between the two as they come together.
At the start the string is just forming, it is just a piece of thin, weak thread. A small connection between two people. Some first dates people cut the thread with scissors right at the beginning when they realise the string formation and energy is wrong, and so they grab the scissors and cut the string.
This string starts of as being strong and rich with magical powers. The power to feel comfort, love and support like you have never felt before. But it is still delicate. Over time, people have a tendency to forget how delicate the string can be. And depending on factors around the people that hold the string there could be a lot of pressure placed on that string.
But, under the right conditions, the string has the ability to become a magical force. With each glowing, happy memory, a new thread is added. Overtime, it is transformed into a glowing, strong amalgmation of pieces of thread that come together to form a strong rope.
The rope has the ability to hold these people in place. It is firm. Supportive and strong. That piece of string that you started with has now become a thick rope.
Lets go back to when it is just a simple peice of stirng. If one person is demanding and pulling the string more in one direction then they’re either pushing the other person that direction causing the string to become loose or the other person pushes back and the string is tight, taught and can break.
Over time, if we don’t focus on that string, focus on building the threads to form the rope, it can become damaged. External heavy weights can be placed on that string, like; pandemics, job loss, financial stresses, families, jealous exes etc. Sometimes the string gets stuck under all this weight. It is no longer a straight string between two people because all this weight is in the middle. That string between the two people is now blocked by this weight.
That is why it is so important to work on keeping the string light; away from all the weights, because if your string is kept on constant weights, it never has the ability to form into the thick rope. Some people may stop holding on to that piece of string and walkaway because they never believe the rope can be formed between the two.
People have all been dealt a different life, with different lengths of string and different qualities of string. Sometimes you hold onto a piece of string for so long and realise it’s the wrong string. Sometimes you grapple with the idea of how long to hold onto that piece of string, hoping that someday the weight will be pulled off and removed and it would be as glowing and strong as it was when you first met. With the ability to form that thick rope.
Imagine a world where there are no external weights or at least no external weights for the majority of the time, especially at the start of the relationship; when the relationship is growing and fluorishing. Our string would be solid and glistening. After a year or so of having no weights, the string would be strengthened and solidified and form that thick rope. It would be able to withstand all the weights of the world.
Our string has had weights since the start. The person holding onto the other side of the string came into holding this string with their own issues that already imposed a lot of force on our string.We’re hanging on by a piece of thread now and I no longer know if i should keep holding the piece of string or to let go.
*String=connection
