Helping you win so I can win
“It’s not whether you win or lose, it’s how you play the game.”
Grantland Rice was an early 20th Century Sportswriter and this was one of his famous quotes. It sounds like the kind of thing we say to school kids so no one gets hurt feelings. You’ve heard it many times and may have even said it to yourself from time to time. I know that I have certainly lent on this quote for comfort in the past.
Winning and losing are both impostors, although winning feels great and losing can feel pretty lousy. You can learn more from losing than from winning, and losing is also a good character builder if used properly. You can also learn from winning and certainly use it to build personal and business momentum, winning is pretty awesome.
Deciding how you play the game
This is one the most important things you can do in life, figuring out who you want to be and what your internal code is. Deciding on what you do and what you don’t do, deciding on what you will tolerate and what you stand up for. Derek Sivers is one of my favorite entrepreneurs and you should definitely catch some of his interviews when you can. He’s been interviewed by Tim Ferris and he appears on a few podcasts, his story is an inspiring tale of someone sticking to their code and winning.
Seth Godin wrote a short blog on two types of winning here. Short and straight to the point (unlike this post I hear you say!), but it really struck a chord with me. In life our circumstances can have a great influence on our values, I love the idea of winning and I definitely want my marriage, my faith, my family life and my business to be a success. When it comes to business and work, I do not want my success to be at the expense of anyone else, I do no not want to scheme and harm another to ensure my success.
This isn’t because I’m a good person, it’s because I’ve decided what my Internal Operating System is going to be. This decision has been informed by my experiences, my faith and a personal conviction that this is the right way to do it. I have worked with colleagues that thrived on confrontation and gossip, I have worked for managers that routinely lied to customers and staff. I’m grateful for those experiences because it can help to clarify who you want to be. I have also worked with people who have decided that there is a better way to do things, acting with integrity and genuinely getting joy at seeing others succeed. That is who I’m striving to be, my success should not be dependent on you failing or losing. There is more than enough in this world for all of us, and just maybe by helping you win, I can win as well.
-Working for your company
-Doing consulting work
-Busy building my own start-up
My aim is to help you win. There is another path, a better path, a way that we help each other navigate through this life. I’m calibrating my Internal Operating System to follow that path.
Wish me luck, and good luck to you as well regardless of which path you choose.