Hi Stephanie and Nathan, you both bring up relevant points about the question of “where are you from?” More than any other point Jason made, I found myself focused on this question and reconsidering whether I should ever ask that question in the future. I consider myself a welcoming, inclusive person and when I ask this question of others, it is always because I am interested in getting to know the person better. (And, I know my geography pretty well).
I think I will continue to ask this question as I always have, when I feel it is appropriate — when I am getting to know someone and it is clear that I am interested in them as a person. I believe most people can tell when another person is being sincere.
Jason, thank you for sharing the results of your study. I found it informative and of particular interest to me currently because I’ve just become friends with a Chinese-American man. Your writing helps me, at a high-level, better understand how he may experience life in the US.