Sidra Asghar
Jul 28, 2017 · 3 min read

How to Win Friends & Influence People

Well, this is one of the very difficult to do thing in the world. Make your friends , colleagues, family and near one’s happy and win their hearts feel very awkward to us because as 21st century human we don’t do any act without thinking ‘Give and Take’ phrase. We always talk about ourselves, always share our incidents, interests and happenings but never asked the listeners who are friends etc., that ‘how you doing’? ‘how’s your day’? ‘Is everything OK in your life’?, because we are self-lovers and always involve in ‘I’ and that’s why in this era every 3rd person in this global village world is alone and frustrated and its main reason is that we never interested in others.

So, by realizing this global bad habit in online course taught me in my Career-Prep Fellowship, i started the activity to contact with near one’s and talk with them and try to ask about only about themselves. I read the book of Dale Carnegie — ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People’ in this regard to actually learn how to start this task and involve in this seriously. This book is great to be read in this context.

I started to spend time with my friends,class fellows, old class mates and those who are not in my approach to meet i make phone calls to them,, Surprisingly this is very different and enjoyable activity. I only talked about themselves and their lives that how they doing , about their professional activities , families and discuss with them their future goals. But at the same time it seems very difficult to me to stopping myself to not talk about myself. I visit my old college and meet my respectable teacher and surprise to see that they still remember me and they also get surprised by seeing me after 4 years and said how i remember them suddenly and that’s make me embarrassed, so i tell them that i want to know how you people are doing, and want to know your well-being and this make them very happy. This moment and feeling also make me happy.

However this is new and different task for me but this help me to learn a lot about people- their type of thinking,feelings,problems,concerns and perspectives on different matters. I get to know that this is very important skill and through this we win people hearts, able to make many best friends and our well-wishers. And gradually start to influence other people because they over-whelmed by the feeling that someone cares about them.

If we apply our this skill sincerely in our professional and practical life we also get profit with respect. Suppose if we ask our hiring managers and recruiters about themselves that how they are doing, make them smile and they like our positive attitude and they get our positive image. As this is not easy to adopt habit but not impossible , once we adopt it sincerely it helps us a lot to achieve many goals in this real world and also improves our relationships and give us ability to interact with others and know about them. If we cares others then we will surely receives more care and respect in return.

Sidra Asghar
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