How To Sustain The Emotion Of Happiness: Real Happiness
Human life constantly revolves around the search for true happiness that never vanishes — happiness that consoles us in the temporary moments of loss and heartbreaks, happiness that never leaves my side. But in reality, how many of us are happy 24/7? Isn’t it that one moment we are over the moon, and the very next moment we are again some crappy, scum human who radiates disappointment from miles away? Because some mean human said:
“You know nothing! You are worthless! Your whole life is a mess!”
As these words are uttered, your surroundings suddenly start to darken, melancholy music begins playing, and your facial expressions drop significantly — you are DEPRESSED!
But why? Ever thought why those little words uttered by a mean human were enough for your happiness to disappear so quickly?
(Thinking…)
Yes!! Because we associate our happiness with the acknowledgement of other people, objects and the achievement of worldly things. However, happiness comes from within. Happiness does not come from drinking alcohol, having your favourite meal, waiting a whole week to enjoy a day off, new clothes, makeup, vaping, etc. The emotion we get engaging in these activities is temporary — it is exactly what we call, short-term pleasure. Pleasure is relative.
If your happiness disappears after you disengage from that activity or remains for a few minutes or maybe some hours, my dear, it was a dopamine rush in your brain that provided you a sense of joy. In contrast to that, real happiness sustains and it comes from self-satisfaction. Being self-satisfied enough that other’s words become as valuable as a pebble in a desert.
Happiness and pleasure are two different concepts. Happiness is about contentment within the present moment. You have to be self-satisfied and see your present moment as fulfilling — fulfilling enough to live in that moment and not just survive.
Self-satisfaction comes from your dedication to the cause. When you know that you made every end effort you could have to achieve anything and that effort was your limit at that time. You tested yourself to its full potential and reached the optimum level.
Now, someone says ‘You are looking ugly,’ but you are self-satisfied that you are looking beautiful because you put in so much effort to make yourself look charming that evening. Your effort gives you confidence. Even if your efforts do not result in the desired outcome, they still help in self-assurance, and help build up a sense of self-reliance — and that is happiness.
Life is too short to be sad or think negatively. Stay optimistic and believe in yourself — you’ve got this. And last but not least:
“You are the author of your life story; make sure to write it beautifully.”
