The worse thing you can do is rush the process of writing and publishing your book. No one likes to discuss all the many things they have done wrong when publishing their first book. As a self-love author, I don’t mind being candid about who I am and the mistakes I have made.

Maybe you have recently decided you were ready to write your first book. Now you’re currently in the researching phase of figuring out where do you even begin to write, publish, and promote your first book. …

I get it, you have recently connected with this guy, and he is attractive, intelligent, funny, and you both have great chemistry.

After spending some time together, he can tell right away that you’re the relationship type. So he takes a chance by being completely honest with you. He lets you know that he does not want a relationship, but he does want to continue to see you.

What do you do? Do you accept his position and remain friends with benefits? Or do you cut off the connection because you want to be exclusive?

Let me tell you a…

You love me like no other You lay roses at my feet You pay my bills, buy me cars and things You see the world when you look at me I love the way you love me You shower me daily I love the way you adore me You will never hurt me as they do You will not let me down as they do But I do not love you how you love me This unrequited love got me stuck The pressure is on You are out of luck My heart is locked up Tucked away and bagged up…

“If you’re searching for that one person that will change your life, take a look in the mirror.”

This quote, in my opinion, applies to those of us who want to evoke change in our lives. If you wish to change something within yourself or outside yourself, you’re the only one who can make it happen. If you’re reading this, I assume you’re ready to take responsibility for your life.

Below are the four steps I take to evoke change in my life continuously. I’ve applied these steps to changing my negative habits, core beliefs that didn’t benefit me, and I let go of negative people who didn’t serve my higher self.

Check-in with yourself.

Think about what…

Your soul feels so familiar
Feels like we’ve done this before
And here we are again
When I look in your eyes
I see pain
You’re cold and calculated
To the world, your Savage
Am I here to help you heal?
Are you here to remind me of love? …

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There are five books I read in 2019 that impacted my life in a positive way. Personal development isn’t as popular as reality TV, but it is useful for your advancement as a human being. Life is about more than just getting attention, getting money, and fame.

When we begin to embark on the self-love journey or starting to learn ourselves, we start looking to other humans out of the world who have walked in our shoes. While reading these books below, I came to understand my journey a little bit more. …

I remember the years of building credit, freelancing, working a 9 to 5, and going to college. Nothing prepared me for single mother life. Work-life balance isn’t anything compared to balancing life, career, and mom life. This single mother’s life can take an emotional and mental toll on you.

I stayed home so that I can enjoy “mom life.” I couldn’t see the path of single mother life when I made that decision, but life happens. Credit score went down, went back to work, feeling horrible when I spend eight hours at work when my child looks in my eyes…

I try to see the good in you I try to experience bliss I try to see a brighter side A higher side Life has my mind racing late nights There is reality or illusion This reality isn’t for fools They rather stay sleep Then to look you in your eyes And see the truth On some real sh*t, I can’t deny you I can’t avoid you Every day I breathe you I feed you On some real sh*t, I can’t deny you I had to check my ego And my pride at times However, I can’t deny how I…

As the holiday approaches parents from two separate homes are coordinating who buys what and dividing time. Both parents are hell-bent on proving that their way of parenting and decision-making is better than the other. One parent has lax rules while the other loves to control everything. One doesn’t avoid their own needs while the other makes more sacrifices on behalf of the family.

How do you avoid being sucked in a petty dispute with the other parent who wants their way?

I can honestly admit that I didn’t know what it was to be a parent until I became one. I couldn’t have imagined the pressures of parenthood until I experienced it myself. Two parents in one…

I remembered three years ago, I was sitting in the living room couch crying my eyes out, with the volume of the TV turned high so I won’t wake my now ex-husband who laid sound asleep upstairs. I remember night after night, and whenever I was alone with enough time to reflect on my life, I would sit and cry.

I didn’t know I was in a deep depression at the time. I should’ve been happy, according to everyone else. …

Siedah Johnson

Article Writer + Author | Topics like self-love, self-improvement, writing, consciousness, and spirituality.

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