I have always wondered why do some women are so gentle and loving at heart and yet seem narcissistic and inauthentic to others.
And then, there are women who are narcissistic and selfish by nature, or nurture, and yet, people surrounding them tend to praise them for their behavior no matter how shamelessly ridiculous it may get.
It is not that seeing this attitude may have corrupted the way the sigma interacts with the outer world, but it is tempting.
In the world where having true values of being kind, compassionate, forgiving are almost synonymous to being complete ‘naivete’ and immature.
More so for men than women, but for the sake of this topic, everything said in here is referring to females rather than males.
In this world, women are more likely to put on cool and calm exterior, a rather shiny facade of being fiercely independent, utterly domineering, and ridiculously mature for their age. They’d rather have men praise them for being a strong-willed professionals and high-achievers than get praised for being homemakers, mothers, and cooks.
And that is ridiculous, as women rather not-knowingly learn to feed their “feminist” independence and neglect their core gentle side. That will at some point in their lives inevitably backfire.
You may be getting confused what all of this has to do with sigma females. After all, they are confident and care little about what others think of them, right? Wrong.
They have all those qualities of strong-willed and confident person, as any sigma have, but being women, they have that “touchy-feely” side of them that longs for connection, authenticity, and understanding.
As already mentioned, these conflicting projections of what she is and how she is seen often bring uneasiness and discontent with what she is at certain point in her life.
Again, not necessarily a bad thing since this truly becomes her “driving” force that leads her to achieving greater personal and professional heights than most other women types. In her pursuit of heights I dare to say that sigma is likely to beat even the self-assured alpha.
All because, it is her who sets the standards to herself, far higher than people eyeing her on the train (or elsewhere) ever would.
In my understanding, true sigmas, and here I am omitting the gender, are rather a product of nurture than nature. They are often the individuals with the most inner resistance to whatever society projects on them; most often deeply troubled with swirl of thoughts and feelings dancing in a crazy raging way.
And yet, they usually manage to keep that calm and collected exterior… Who would have guessed what they are really thinking; until it bubbles up and they finally say it.
And then, there’s deafening silence.
Being a woman, she is judged of being self-absorbed and inauthentic, and not being kind and compassionate to others. She smiles back again, shrugs her shoulders, and gets the thoughts and feelings in order, and there she is, back to the pedestal she did not ask for.
Why would this be her nature?
