It appears you’re conflating cruelty with challenges. There are a lot of things that all humans do to provide us that feeling of security. Yes, it’s often done at the expense of others, but its aim it not outright cruelty. Think of how society “blames” the rape victim. Was she young and pretty? Was she dressed provocatively? Out late at night? In a “bad” part of town? Was she promiscuous (not a word used as often today)? Drunk or on drugs? A high school drop out? These are just a FEW of the questions people ask. If they don’t ask them out loud, they ask them to themselves. It is NOT to be MEAN. It is to provide a false sense of security that THEY (or their loved ones) will be safe if they don’t do the same behaviors. We do the identical thing when a young child goes missing or ANY other tragedy that we believe we can prevent, if ONLY. You seem like a very unhappy young man. I wish you well. I’m in NO way mocking a suicide attempt/ideation with suggesting you “get over it”, but I do believe that most disappointments are blessings in disguise. Maybe you weren’t ready for Stanford, or Stanford wasn’t ready for you. I’ve read the other comments & if you’re up for criticism maybe you could take a sabbatical for some personal growth. Blessings!