simaab akram
Jul 28, 2017 · 3 min read

“BEING INTERESTED NOT INTERESTING”

Get the attention and love of others not by making yourself interesting but by being interested in others”

The feeling of importance exists in all the people present in this world. Everyone wants to be loved by someone. Everyone wants to have a person in his life who will share his feelings, who will understand him without saying a single word, who will love him a lot.

There is only the need to have a person who listen without any argument but listen must.”

The main idea of the first chapter of the book “How to Win Friends and Influence People” written by “Dale Carnegle” is that we can make more strong relationship by interested in others not by making yourself interesting. This is true actually because we can grab more attention, more love, more consideration by giving importance. If a person always focusses on “I, I, I” then he will not focus on the problems of others because he has a lot of problems of his life, he has no time to focus on the problems of others. And on the other side the person who not only focus on his problems but also take care of others he will have more people to share his problems.

This is actually the time of give and take. If we love others, then the same thing will available for us in return and if we hate others then we should expect the same. We should work on those things that are beneficial for others without any selfishness then the return will be the same. We can decrease the feelings of frustration, fear and loneliness by our love so we should work on that.

The great man shows his greatness by the way he treats little man”

I remember a story of Hazrat Muhammad ( S.A.W),Although the life of Hazrat Muhammad ( S.A.W) is light for all of us but this story relates to the current topic.Hazrat Muhammad ( S.A.W) always done things without having the thought of what will be the return of this act to me like he served people who hated him, irritated him by different methods but at last they had to embraced Islam just because of Hazrat Muhammad ( S.A.W) love.

If you want others to like you, if you want to develop real friendships, if you want to help others at the same time as you help yourself, keep always in your mind that.

BEING INTERESTED IN OTHERS IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN BE INTERESTING.”

“LEARNING THROUGH ASKING QUESTIONS FROM DIFFERENT PEOPLE”

Learning is something that occur actually throughout your life time. A person learns from each and every moment of his life. When we ask questions from different people that then this not only enhance our knowledge but also give us an idea that how we can apply that knowledge on our lives if it is helpful for us.

Different people have different long and short terms goals. When I asked about their goals, different people had different answers according to their priorities.Those included the following:

Career Goals

  • Show up to work on time
  • Finish their projects in a timely manner
  • Manage their time better
  • Have a good attitude
  • Keep their resume updated
  • Learn new skills
  • Try to cut costs
  • Recognize and appreciate others’ work
  • Get rid of work-related stress

Personal Development Goals

  • Restructure their priorities
  • Hang out with friends more often
  • Volunteer their time
  • Have a better outlook on life
  • Read more
  • Learn how to do more things
  • Stay away from negativity
  • Stay away from stress stressful situations
  • Work on communication
  • Avoid conflict

Financial Goals

  • Set up a checking and savings account
  • Set up a daily, weekly, and monthly budget for themselves
  • Cut out unnecessary spending
  • Eliminate any debt they may have
  • Try to Live within their means
  • Take advantage of any automatic services their job may offer.

I have learned a lot from this activity because I have come to know many things about which I thought that how can I do this, that etc. But now those are easy for me.

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