May 6, 2020
A little topic on which think over
It’s an abnormal life which we are living today. From one side we are living the fear of a virus, of which we know very little, and on the other side we are experiencing what it means to live alone. Certainly, not all of us are alone: some are in their family, some with their partner. But it isn’t this the “loneliness” I want to talk today. Maybe for the first time, we are experiencing what it means be alone with ourselves: we are depraved of our habits, we not know what to do in this period, it seems like a part of us is dying with the society that we know.
It’s not unusual most of us are “rediscovering” ourselves. I think that it isn’t the right verb: most of us are learning to be in contact with ourselves. It seems almost inevitable. But not all of us are sure it will be a pleasant experience. I’ll explain better: we are almost “forced” in this period to see within us. We are forced by the time which seems never pass, but also by an innate stimulate to face up this change. We are not robots, we know what is happening in the world, and we know that this is a time in which we could do something new and positive for ourselves. But is also a truth that most of us don’t know how, or better, they seem stuck in their old habits, in their life that daily kept going and that gave them so much security.
I know, it’s not simple to start your lifestyle all over again. But I believe it can be possible and easier with the right attitude.
First of all: to face up the fear. It could be the hardest thing, but believe me: if you can be enough motivate and strong to do it, you’ll find a long forgotten energy. Now, how to do that?
1: Know your enemy. When this emotion comes to you, stop for a moment. Where does it manifest to you? In which part of your body? In your chest, in your abdomen, maybe in an indefinite region? Try to perceive where it hurts.
2: Don’t control it. I know it may sound “different” from what our instinct tells us, but just try. Remain in contact with the emotion without the need to judge, to recriminate ourselves, to “put back our emotions”. Try to just observe it.
3.Wait what it happen. I know what you are thinking: “What may be happen in this moment if not that I’m suffering?”. But I want to tell you the my personal experience. I know what IS to be possessed by the fear, by this feeling of powerlessness, of which you have the sensation it never go away. From few days I tried to not “fight” with it, to not resist it, to not feed it. I’m saying I tried to not perceive it like an enemy, or a so-called monster inside of me. I simply tried to think: “You have won, do with me whatever you want”. And in that moment I see a bright sign of hope: I began to realize that the “fear” can’t control me, my self is not more trapped in the emotion. It’s a fantastic feeling, I hope you can experiment it, too.
The second considerable topic is the momentum: how to keep the new feeling.
Once we have face the “monster”, that which is more frightening for us, it’s the time to get back our routine. I know, maybe the biggest fear is just this: the fear of returning at our stuff motivated, but with the sensation that it’s not the end… I must be honest: I don’t know if this is the “end of our fears”, but surely it’s the end of our concern about this. I’ll explain better: once you have succeed the first time, not only you can repeat your result, but also you can be sure that fear is not your enemy. When you realize that you can go out from the prison, then there is the CERTAINTY of your independence from the possibility of be trapped again. There is the sureness that you don’t depend more on it. At the end it all depends from us, how has always been.
