Do It Anyway
How to ignore your boss and get away with it
A Pocket Guide to Successful Rebellion After Being Told ‘No’
Change How Your Respond to “No”
Use every “No” from your boss as an opportunity to change your relationship with him/her. Do not challenge… Ask better questions.
1. Discover the Unsaid
There’s almost always information behind every “No” that bosses didn’t think to share. Discover what that is by asking questions like…
• “Help me understand what you’re trying to achieve.”
• “Help me understand why my idea isn’t a good one.”
• “Help me understand my next steps.”
• “What’s driving this deadline?”
• “Did I misunderstand our department’s top priorities?”
2. Explore Alternatives
This step is for reserved for hard-core play-it-safers.
If you truly wish to ignore his/her “No,” skip to Step 3…
Step 2: Based on what you learn in Step 1, set up a discussion about exploring possible alternative solutions. Like:
• “Now that I better understand your needs…
I’d like to come back to you with a couple new possibilities. OK?”
• “If I meet those requirements, I assume you will review a revised proposal?”
• “I will revise my budget and get back to you next week.”
3. Work Up Alternatives to His/Her ‘No’
When your boss said “No,” it was a reaction to a thought bubble above your head. It wasn’t real. Create something your boss can experience, see, hear, or touch. Give your boss something to react to, where pluses and minuses can be discussed after that experience. The keys…
• Never ask permission. Seek only forgiveness for taking initiative
• Spend zero money, or as close to that as possible
• Time: As close as possible to just hours or a couple days from his/her “No.” (Anything longer than that and you risk having the boss feeling betrayed.)
Find Your Voice, Take a Stand
If Steps 1–3 Work…
Great! No need for the next step. You are successfully changing your relationship with your boss to take more risks and be more innovative.
4. If Trying Steps 1–3 a Few Times Keeps Getting You Nowhere…
Clearly, your boss is holding you back and this not going to stop.
You have two choices…
Either: Stop asking for permission altogether. Just do whatever you think is best. And then when you get dinged: ask for forgiveness, again and again.
Or: Start looking for a new manager, or new job.
WORDS OF WISDOM
Richard Branson on Living a Life With No Regrets
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— by Bill Jensen
Who’s been Doing It Anyway his whole life. Like the time in high school when he was warned not to organize Senior Cut Day, and used the principal’s supplies and budget to do it anyway.
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Bill’s latest book, Future Strong, is about the five deeply personal choices each of us must make to be ready for all the disruptive tomorrows heading our way.