Want to reach your goals? Avoid this 1 biggest mistake.

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Just when I began writing this article, one of my friends called me, “ Do you want to play soccer now?”

And I was in a pretty big dilemma deciding whether to write this article or play soccer for “some time”. I was kind of listing the pros and cons of both the activities in my mind.

It was a difficult decision to make.

Eventually, I decided to play soccer. I thought that I will finish this article when I come back.

And this incident happened three days ago.

An example of the Pleasure Principle, i.e, we have an inherent drive to avoid pain and seek pleasure.

I chose pleasure over pain.

Short-term pleasure over Long-term pleasure.

Instant Gratification over Delayed Gratification.

Instant Gratification is sometimes good and may motivate you to work harder.

For example, if your father tells you that you will get your favorite cookie as a reward after you complete your homework, you will be much more motivated to work.

Why?

Because you will get a cookie. And that too now.

Now imagine that you would be awarded the same cookie after some days of completion of your work.

Would you work with the same enthusiasm as earlier?

I don’t think so.

Why?

Now you will be not instantly rewarded.

Your brain does not like the idea.

You do not like the idea.

You may not even complete your homework (not unless and until you are a very sincere student).

Today, marketers use this instant gratification to drive sales and increase conversions.

You may have visited some websites where it read something like this-

Download this E-Book Now.

Lose 4 kg weight in 7 days.

They will provide you with something useful, and that too in a short period of time.

But this instant gratification is the very same thing that keeps you from waking up early, getting fit and getting an A on the project.

Because of it, I was unable to post this article three days ago.

We want everything so instantly and quickly that we are unable to see the bigger picture. We forget about the long-term benefits.

We are focusing on the destination and its rewards rather than the journey itself.

Remember, good things take time.

And if they don’t?

Well, I think they might not give you long-lasting happiness and satisfaction.

What to do then?

The best thing that you can do is break your goals into smaller chunks. Now try to finish these small goals one by one.

What will happen when you do so?

You will feel happy and good after completing each small goal. You not only handled instant gratification but also accepted it.

Keep working hard and always remember why you started.