All The Single Ladies… Let’s Talk!

It’s time for a whole lot of self-honesty. This is for all my single sistas who are wondering how to move forward and make changes in their love life. But first, let me share a short story about mines. I am 21 years old and I love the idea of being in love, falling in love, loving someone, and being in a relationship. Love it. But… Why am I still single?
It was Mid-November of 2016 when I met THE one. Yes. I met the one I’m supposed to spend my entire life with. He’s everything a black woman like me could ever dream of; he’s tall, dark skinned, pearly white teeth with a perfect smile, and a gentleman. He’s intelligent, hilarious, and such a beautiful being overall. We weren’t together at the time because we both had JUST left a relationship and wanted to focus on building ourselves as individuals. We’re not together as I’m typing this, because he fears of commitment and although I’m always feeling like I’m absolutely READY to be in a relationship, I’m actually not ready. Therefore, I introduce to you, the 3 questions I think my single sistas should ask themselves:
- What changes can I make in my love life?
- How will my love life change?
- What can I currently look forward to in my love life?
I repeat, it is time for a whole lot of self-honesty. Admit to yourself that there’s more than one or more areas where you would benefit from getting assistance. Allow yourself to be supported and don’t ever be afraid to ask for the support that you need. What you once felt comfortable with, now makes you uncomfortable. Whenever you feel uncomfortable, acknowledge it and create some space to grow in that area. Take your time in making life decisions and adjustments. Get that support and adopt the changes as you feel ready. Know that your new outlook will lead the way without stress or worries. Don’t be that person who hates to get in their feelings — how will you learn if you don’t? Explore old and deep feelings as a way of opening and healing your heart. Use those memories and feelings as a pathway to explore emotions you may not have processed previously (I would probably write a memoir after this).
Push past shyness and meet new people, sista girl! Your social fears stem from spending time with insensitive people and you’ll benefit from connecting with gentle and kind individuals like yourself. This cycle of beginnings and endings is touching you right now. It’s important to be gentle with yourself during time of change. So what should you do? Practice daily self-care. Exercise it like a muscle! It is important to take time to heal. Why? Because a new perspective could allow you to view things in a different light. You’ll become a stronger person overtime. It’s time to release the past and nurture yourself and those you love. Know that you have the gift of being able to make anything more beautiful. There’s a balance between function and beauty, girl. So go and do what you love. This is a time of great personal growth in your career or artistic endeavors. Always trust your potential and be aware of it.
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