People can find pretty good matches in mates both when they are and are not looking. The circumstances can be tilted in favor or against, depending. The universe is indifferent, but some find it reassuring to believe that it has been designed to help us out if only we step out of our own way. Reassuring but is it true and does it even matter? Maybe in some ways this does seem to be the magical workings of the world, as in the way of the Tao: “Do by not doing, act by not acting.” Picasso had his own form of this, saying, “I didn’t seek, I found.” And then there’s Mae West: “Two plus two equals five if you know how to work it right.” Now, where’s that missing umbrella?