Nauseating. really — your “Give Goal” is to recognize her grace and hers is to recognize your ego? Barf. I like how you have the animal brian and she gracefully waits for you to return to reality. She must be a saint. All of these are at best lofty ideals, but not really practical tips. I’ve been married for 25 years, with 3 grown up kids….This to me sounds like a trip to the psych ward to pick up the inevitable prozac/viagra prescription. Or have you never experienced the wonderfulness of open fighting , then laughing about it afterward …..followed by a couple of drinks and really good makeup sex? You know why?? Because its honest and it’s fun, that’s why!