“A part of maturity is about an ability to talk in an unfrightened way and a reassuring way about some of one’s more troubling desires.” Alain de Botton

“A part of maturity is about an ability to talk in an unfrightened way and a reassuring way about some of one’s more troubling desires.

“As people get older they get better at this. When I watch older people getting into relationships now, one of the good sides is that they say things like “There are just some things I need to tell you about themselves. I’ve learned this over long years. On Sunday evenings, don’t say anything. I’ll just be in a strange mood. I’ll be okay on Monday morning. It’s maybe just best to leave me alone”

“That may be the hard won fruit of years of arguments with another person who has been the educator in this field.

“Young people in their desire to please and their fear of their own peculiarities may not be able to lay out their oddities in a way others achieve that understanding.”

Alain De Botton

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