How to Learn Resilience
Love this discussion on learned resilience. The idea of being comforted by research; I’m glad they all laughed about that because I’m that person! I listened to the audiobooks mentioned. They even deep dive into Martin Seligman’s ideas of Permanence, Pervasiveness and Personalization:
- Practice explaining that bad events, feelings, and failures are temporary. Pay attention to the ways good things linked to permanent qualities.
- Rehearse seeing problems in one area of life as being in their own world separate from your life. At the same time, use good things to see good in all parts of your life.
- Train yourself to pay attention to how issues have causes that are outside of yourself. Take confidence in how you made a difference when good things happen.
After her husband died suddenly from a cardiac arrhythmia, Facebook’s COO Sheryl Sandberg (Lean In) thought she would never experience true joy again. Nearly two years later, she is out with a new book, Option B, that delves into how she proved herself wrong — and how others can build resilience in the face of trauma, too. Sandberg wrote Option B with her friend Adam Grant, an organizational psychologist and Wharton professor. They both join Katie onstage at the 92Y in Manhattan to discuss insights from the book, including how to support grieving children, dating after loss, and the “three P’s” that can hinder recovery.
Listen to the episode: 26. Sheryl Sandberg: Living Option B from Katie Couric