“The sulk is a fury that another person hasn’t understood something key about you.” Alain de Botton

“The sulk is a fury that another person hasn’t understood something key about you. Mixed with a real commitment to not explaining what that thing is. Blaming them for not understanding you. But refusing to explain because that seems to be a betrayal of love.

“So you get home, you bolt the bathroom door, and you refuse to say what’s wrong. You expect the lover to read through the door and into your soul. And just KNOW.

“That’s a childhood fantasy that the parent can see into you. That God can see into you. It’s very touching and so dangerous. The truth is, we have to learn to become our own advocates.”

Alain de Botton

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