It’s Been Long Enough. Say Goodbye. (Pt 2)

Skye Cardoz
Sep 2, 2018 · 2 min read

When you refuse to believe that they would do anything to harm you. A second in the “Say Goodbye” series.

Photo by Anthony Tran on Unsplash

In my first article, This Is Your Sign. Say Goodbye, I spoke about the signs that you must see in your significant other to realise that they are being abusive. I understand that sometimes those signs are not significant. If your S.O. tells you that you are bad at singing, maybe you are and he is just trying to save you from the embarrassment?

Here are three ways how you have adapted to this toxic relationship:

1. You’re scared of telling your friends what they did

As usual, the two of you got into a fight. God knows what this one was about, but they hurt you. They really did. The first time you whined to your friends about this they told you “what a jerk! I can’t believe you took this!”

But you convince yourself that your friends are not in this relationship and they don’t understand what it’s like to be in this situation. So they hurt and hurt you and you take and take it. And you don’t tell anyone because this is a private matter. You’re scared of them convincing you to leave the relationship.

2. Not bringing up a topic because you know it will lead to a fight

You have been down this road way too many times to make the same mistake again. You have been with this person long enough to know what makes them tick, and what doesn’t. So you choose to tip toe in the relationship. You decide it’s better to not bring up topics like Rome or chocolates because you know they will get upset, and that just makes it all worse.

You decide to bottle up everything. You live in fear. That’s not fair to you.

3. You feel like you’re wrong

Because they told you so. They told you that you had a weird voice and you believed them. They’re so much at the center of your universe that you believed that what they say is for your good.

You are not crazy. If you love to dance, then, baby, just dance! Do what your soul tells you to. It doesn’t matter if you have two left feet because, well, how does one define two left feet?

You end up feeling so helpless, that sometimes even after reading articles like these, you’re convinced that they will change. But they don’t. they really don’t.

There is a better world out there. And I promise you that the roses out there smell really fresh. And you will fall in love again. You just need to leave this relationship, because this isn’t even a relationship.

I hope you think about this, because you deserve happiness.


Originally published at www.skyejcardoz.com.

Skye Cardoz

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Hi, my name is Skye and I write stories about beautiful tragedies. I also like writing articles. www.skyejcardoz.com

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