‘YOLO’, I used to laugh thinking about this term. ‘You only live once’.

Usually it’s used in a joking justification of a spontaneous outing or an impulse buy. But today as someone close lost his life suddenly with late stage cancer, it makes me rethink how important YOLO is.

Not only do we only live once, we only have this very moment once. We don’t know what the next moment will bring. But we are in control of this very moment.

Since last night’s hospital visit to say goodbye I’ve replayed the total moments I’ve had with him in my mind. All of the moments were too few and far between. Too fleeting. I can still hear him breathing, grunting, and laughing in my mind. We didn’t say much to each other but he always took a moment to say he loved me and meant it.

Using the right moment to chose to do the right thing, say the right thing, embody the right thing, that answers what our core pleads us to do in relation to what’s important to us; our values.

I’m sick and tired of conforming to what rules or biases that have been engrained in us via society/household/work culture, mass media, or what doesn’t stir up dust. Albeit we each may be influenced by a culmination of environments but we can chose to embody something or not.

It’s time we stand up for what we know in our hearts feels right; to be our best authentic selves. That’s the justification for YOLO. Each and every one of us = YOLO.

As Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “Do one thing everyday that scares you…what you feel in your heart to be right.”

This will answer our soul’s calling. And make us real. Really real. Let us be true to ourselves and let us shine bright to each other by pushing down/rejecting bias and prejudice. Let’s treat each other with care each and every time and with open arms. Let’s treat each moment preciously like it is a brand new story that we can open our hearts to. Because YOLO.