The Truth About Women And Masturbation
In a society where sex, nudity and desire seem to be everywhere, why is masturbation (and specifically, female masturbation) still a taboo?
Is it only the subject that is taboo, or the practice itself? Let’s take a closer look at the facts first!
Women and masturbation: what is really going on?
We have gathered the results from various studies to get a better understanding of what women do and don’t when it comes to masturbation:
In Malaysia and Singapore, a third of women admin they never masturbate, and one out of 4 masturbate less than once a month. That still means that two thirds of women do masturbate, and most of them do so regularly. In the UK, the percentage of women who masturbate goes up to 83%, and a third of them do so more than once per week! A very similar number than what is observed in Belgium.
Women do masturbate, but the % of them who do it is lower than for men. And frequency is lower as well…
Yes, women masturbate, but not as often as men do.
A research conducted by the Indiana University in the US demonstrated that men masturbated more often than women. How come?
First, anatomy has made women’s private parts much less visible to their own eyes. And the female mechanics of pleasure are definitely much less obvious than men’s. There is no clear signal of arousal such as with men, nor is there a visible physiological sign of climax. And the anatomy of women sexual pleasure has not drawn attention of the scientific community until late. So, public knowledge has also been simply lacking.
Second, the topics of self-exploration and masturbation for women has been traditionally tabooed. It is often considered by religions as a sin. Masturbation is therefore associated to something negative and often surrounded by guilt.
Even when we take the religion out of it, women in society are still firstly considered as life-givers. So, their sexuality gets related to procreation. Woman masturbation remains taboo and is viewed quite negatively. Even psychoanalysis father Freud considered that masturbation made women hysterical and psychotic, and that clitoral orgasm was “childishA “real woman” should only reach climax via vaginal stimulation (which queued the need for a male partner)…
And yet, masturbation is intrinsically linked to sexuality and to our well-being.
What good can masturbation do to our body and mind?
Physicians and sexologists agree: for our physical, mental and even emotional health, masturbation holds many benefits.
It is a way to discover and know your body better. Which makes it easier to voice what you like and dislike when in bed with a partner. Further than discovery, it is also a moment with yourself, where you show love and respect towards your body.
Self-pleasuring also rewires your brain so that your libido rises. Indeed, the more sex you have the more sex you fancy it because your brain thinks of sex more often, and sex arousal starts in the brain…
Orgasms also release endorphins, which are a mood booster. Some doctors even say it can help alleviate menstruation pains.
“If you have a uterine contraction while self-stimulating and a uterine contraction can help menstrual blood come out faster… theoretically it’s going to help with cramps,” says Dr Lauren Streicher, an Associate Professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Northwestern University
If masturbation might still be a taboo subject, but research seems to have taken it as a new area of investigation. And this is a very positive development as a better understanding of our body, and pleasure mechanism can emancipate us from obsolete beliefs, and allow us to enjoy more our sex life!
Masturbation as part of sexuality is an open invitation to play with your body, your desire and energy. It is your very own choice to accept it, now or later.
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The Smile Makers Team!
- The National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior (NSSHB) from Indiana University , 2009
- Survey conducted by Flair, Belgium, 2015