I had to think about this for a while, my friend. Because there are two sides to this story;
1) You, sir, are a hero. You stood up for your friends, you punched some guys who bullied, they ran away and none of you saw them ever again. Standing up for others and defend them, violently if necessary , takes quite some nerves, a bit bravery and a few pinches of empathy. I applaud you, and many others who stood up, for it and you have my respect.
2) You, sir, are a hero. You stood up for your friends, you punched some guys who bullied, they ran away and none of you saw them ever again. ….Now here’s the problem; the ones who bullied got away, with only a hurtfull gut. They’re probably on their way to find a new victim by now. They were not taught to behave otherwise, no one asked them why they were bullying in the first place, what they would need to stop bullying, they were offered no alternatives to their behaviour and so on… My heart goes out for bulliers, ‘cause research tells they have serious issues, but truth be told; just a little bit of my heart…
Your friends who got bullied…. You stood up for them, ánd by doing so you took hís/hérs/theirs possibility to stand up for themselfs. Aside from that; they too got away with it! Yóu ended up in a fight, which could turn out very bad or even worse for you,,and they could have left the scène without a scratch, while they are a part of the problem, and should be a part of the solution! They didn’t learn a damn thing ( because the problem was already solved). They were not somehow offered the opportunity to ‘study’ their place in the social hierarchy,( which they obviously had no or hardly a clue about- they were bullied! If they had a stronger ‘Self’ they would not have been bullied.) No one told them what their position was and how they could change that, they did not learn hów to stand up for themselfs in order to prevent a bully attack the next time. And with the knowledge they could have gained, they could have spread that knowledge onto others.
Now stretch this thought a bit further- to a lifespan. A life where it’s easy to draw the victimcard, or were one just sits and waits for help, ‘cause that was always the case….
And for the one who stands up all the time (you in this case)- that must be very tiring. And potentially dangerous. Obviously you knew/know how to defend yourself. ( I don’t know your background but I pressume, for the sake of argument, that you have some knowledge about the physical and mental process that starts when things get ugly) Next time, be braver than you already are and grab hold of a bullier. Push him firmly to the ground and point out to your friends where to punch, so next time hé will go down and all of you go home safe and sound.
I’ll bet, onces he knows the ‘weak’ turned into ‘less weak or even strong’, the bullying stops.
And for what it’s worth kurt; you did a fine job! I admire you for it. Imho it had to be adults (teachers, parents, a neighbor, even a police officer, whoever) who had to step in the situation in order to de-escalate and start up a serie of events I just spoke about.
Unfortunately adults are not that trustworthy…
And I haven’t heard news from the captured children. Since it just took a blink of an eye to fetch them, separate them from their mothers and throw them in cages like pigs, I pressume it also took just a blink of an eye to resolve this situation…Right??!
