Fish love OR True love?

Snehal hosmani
Jul 20, 2017 · 3 min read

While procrastinating on facebook I came across a very interesting video by Rabbi Dr.Abraham Twerski which answered all my questions on LOVE.

He started with a small story which goes something like this: A rabbi came across a man who was zealously eating a very fine fish.The rabbi asked the man as to why he is eating that fish to which the man simply said “I love fish”. Perplexed the rabbi said, “ You love the fish?? ,that’s why you took it out of the water,killed it and boiled it??. Don’t tell me you love the fish, you love YOURSELF and so you took it out of the water,killed it and boiled it to satisfy your tongue and tummy.”

According to Rabbi Twerski most of the love that we see,that we feel these days is FISH love and i can’t agree more.

Fish love is this mean selfish love where we only see if we are getting any sort of benefit, a sort of appeasement ,a greater satisfaction from loving someone else.

A classic example of Fish love which is often mistaken as True love is that of a love between a couple.In this love both of them wants the other to satisfy their emotional and physical needs.

And once the relationship is off they end up doing the following:1)Whine about the other person as that person is no longer satisfying their needs.2)Accept it and move on to ‘point 3’ or do something horrendous like throwing acid on the other persons face to killing the other person. 3)Find somebody else who can satisfy their needs.

So what is True love then? Because Fish love is the only love this generation has majorly witnessed.Don’t you agree?

Supreme fact : YOU LOVE YOURSELF MORE!

Don’t deny. Deep within ,you know that you love yourself. Take away all those insecurities and sacrifices ,search yourself and you will know that you love yourself more than anything in this world!

It is true love when you INVEST yourself in somebody,when a part of you becomes a part of somebody and you love them because a part of you is living with them,a part of you which you love.

A question might have sprung in your mind.You mean when a couple falls in love they don’t invest in the other person? Well they definitely do but only till their needs are being satisfied.What after a breakup? Doesn’t the couple curse each other? Don’t they badmouth about each other among fellow peers?Don’t they spill each other’s dirty secrets? Don’t they forget each other in the end?

Now would you really curse yourself? Would you really badmouth about yourself to your close friends? Would you spill your very own dirty secrets? No.Right?!!

Let me give you a clichéd example of True love.The love that a mother has towards her baby is beyond comparison. You know why? Because the mother has invested in that baby from the very very beginning.

The baby will grow up,the baby will fight,the baby will make wrong decisions,the baby will go against the mother and yet the mother loves the baby because a part of her is in the baby and she loves that part in the baby.

If you ever truly loved another person i.e., If you ever truly invested in other person , you would only want their good.

Am I right? Is Rabbi Twerski right?

What kind of love would you want? What kind of love would you want to give?

Fish love or True love?

You can watch Rabbi Dr.Abraham Twerski video here.

-SH

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