Sneha Saksena
Jul 24, 2017 · 3 min read

The Bucket List

This post does not make a mention of Rob Reiner’s ‘The Bucket List’ but the intent is to make you walk through your own list.

I often tell my close friend in college about what I really long for. Either in terms of my long term career plan which is definitely not being a corporate ass or the experiments/experiences I would like to undertake before getting hitched.

We all have those wishes, realistic or far fetched, which give our life a little meaning.

How willing are we to make them true?

Personally, I’ve only been able to take baby steps in the area which interests me the most (or what I really wish for). Somehow we all are so comfortable in the cocoon built around us, we seldom experiment or take any step closer to achieving something we desire.

I made decent efforts to extract figures that support my hypothesis of people being unhappy with their current lives; I was rather redirected to motivational quotes on life (Did they fear another suicide?) The motto being that unless we do something that gives us immense pleasure/happiness, there’s no meaning to our life. We are just Kaatofying it!

We have our yearnings divided in two (as mentioned in most of our lectures but with a little modification), the short term caters to the likely possible in the near future and long term wishes require enormous efforts as it deals with drifting away from the status quo.

We’ll leave our comfort zone, move to another city, take up the job which pays more and marry someone who isn’t our first love just to fulfill the societal and parental pressures. After all, everyone’s parents want to say ‘Humara bacha ache se settle ho gaya” and our there goes our wish list down the drain.

Are we really under an obligation to do what our parents wish for us?

That’s what we have been doing. Most of us. (Beta Engineer. Beta MBA. Beta Shaadi. Beta Bache).

And we have been brought up in a way where we just can’t go against our parents because Sanskaar.

Even if your bucket list never had the career option or you’re actually working towards it/achieved it, you would still have those little unfulfilled wishes you could work on like exploring new place every summer.

The idea is to be happy and if you aren’t, you are either at the wrong place or doing wrong things. While I won’t ignore the fact that money is important but earning it (even if a little less) while doing something that makes you happy makes more sense.

Sneha Saksena

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Scorpio. Commerce by choice. MBA by chance. SR’ite. Ambivert. Love Food.

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