The Only Way is Rosé
So I shall begin at my new beginning, which is now, no looking back. I am a single mum to two incredible little girls aged 3 and 6. They are amazing. They have dealt with a divorce and settled into living new lives where they spend just over half of their time with me and the rest with their dad and his new partner. They are both happy and full of life and fun and laughter. I am the one that has struggled the most even though it was my choice to leave and now I am facing some hard truths about the HAPPINESS that has eluded me for a while now.
I heave learnt so much in the last two years of readjustment, every aspect of my life has changed. I have relocated from Essex and back to the area where I grew up so my parents can help me out a bit. Leaving behind friends and familiarity and trying to establish myself with a new social life whilst taking on the responsibility of a home with a mortgage to pay which involved getting back to work after 5 years out of the game.
All was going well, I had a real zest for life but then something changed…the mundane got on top of me, everything became a strain, my back started to hurt, I started to complain to people how hard it all was and my life began to snowball into a pit of despair where I felt that I was on a hamster wheel and no part of my life was functioning well, even a glass of rosé didn’t perk me up it just got me further down….and that’s when I knew things were bad and something had to change!
I had felt the rollercoaster effect before but this was different, I was properly down and the more I looked at which aspects of my life were causing me problems the worse things became and the more my health suffered.
In true Bridget Jones style I have read self help book after self help book. I have tried exercise, eating well and holistic approaches to steer myself away from anti-depressants because I knew that there was a glimmer of hope in there, of the old me, I just had to find it somehow and that is what has led me here.
To me a glass of Rosé signifies a happy place…not simply the alcohol (although I do like a social bevvy or two) but the vision that it creates for me. Summer days sipping a cool glass of perfectly pink rosé, watching the sun set on a glistening blue sea, having spent the day with my gorgeous little girls and my family. Salt in my hair, sand on my tanned feet and not a care in the world and that’s my happy.
The problem is, how do I create this feeling in my everyday life? I can’t constantly be on holiday…can I?! How do I find the elusive feeling of HAPPINESS whilst I am chasing my tail and panicking about what needs to get done next and how late I’m going to be for school drop off and thinking how will I get my work done that day and what if I lose my job and can’t pay the bills and what if one of the children gets sick and how will I ever look nice again when I don’t have time to shower and panic, panic, blow everything out of proportion go into survival mode, don’t listen to anyone’s advice becuase how could they possibly know how hard it is for me etc etc…and breathe!
I would like to think that I am special and I am the only one that feels this way becuase I am the only one who is in this crappy situation and no one who had to deal with this would cope and what I have realised is that it isn’t just me! There are a lot of people, particularly with young kids, who find it hard to find happiness in their everyday chaotic lives and then everything becomes a strain and they become unhappy and then relationships start to suffer and they are no longer fulfilled.
We all have different drains on our energy but I have discovered the secret and that is that ‘The Only way is Rosé’ — metaphorically speaking. The only way forward is to choose my vision of happy and keep that with me in everything that I do. I have to believe that I can sustain that vision of happiness through every aspect of my life and focus on the positive and give the negative as little airtime as possible. Happiness isn’t there to be found, I must create it by painting a happy, positive vision of my life and believing fully that I can live that life without any doubt.
‘The Only Way is Rosé’ is a campaign for positivity and is a journey into the little enhancements that we can make in our lives to achieve greater feelings of happiness with a particular focus on parents who may have put themselves and their feelings to the bottom of the pile in daily life….pretty much every parent I know! I don’t know about you but I want to live the dream! I want to be happy every single day and do all of the things that make me happy and why not! Now is the time. Join me on my campaign, if nothing else than just to keep my spirits up and stop me from procrastinating! I will be running some pledges as part of my campaign where I will aim to include something new and positive into my daily routine for 30 days and will be encouraging you to do the same so that we can support each other and keep up the momentum.
I am so excited and very grateful to get started on this campaign as I know that positivity breeds positivity and that the more of us that can get together with a positive mindset, the better the results!
I am based in a small village in Surrey with Cobham and Guildford on my doorstep so if you are local and want to know what I will be covering in my campaign, here’s a taster:
- Emotional well-being to include: Yoga, exercise, massage, spirituality, meditation and breathing techniques, positive affirmations and vision boards, helping others, expressing gratitude, journalling
- Eating well at home and out and about and holistic family health
- Simplicity life hacks for an organised life: De-cluttering, to do lists, flexible working
- Fashion & beauty tips to uplift and boost mood
- Inspirational travel and retreats to invigorate the mind, body and soul
Live your dream….what are you waiting for?
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