What I’ve Learned from Mentorship
Cool news: I’ve been working with the leadership team at Designers Guild to launch an online mentorship program this September. Designers Guild is a community of 10,000+ designers committed to discussing, learning, and growing together. The outpouring of interest in our upcoming program (over 400 mentees and 100 mentors have applied) encouraged us to open up a dialogue about mentorship expectations and experiences. Here are some of my stories.
My First Mentor
My first mentorship experience began after I started contracting freelance design work in high school. (This was the start of my design career around eight or nine years ago.) After a couple years of independently learning how to design and code, a friend’s dad commissioned me to produce a website for his legal firm. I was around 15 years old and it was my first freelance gig. It went well and I quickly landed another project via referral, this one with a senior designer on it.
This designer — who became my first mentor — was in his 50s with a lot of more traditional agency experience. Our communication styles meshed well and we got along instantly. My skillset complemented his experience well. He would handle the clients, lead design direction, manage projects, and present work. I filled in the gaps with my knowledge of technology and new media. We’ve worked together on a lot of projects since.
- I learned about the administrative and hustling aspects of freelance work; my communication skills with clients and collaborators flourished.
- I gained a ton of confidence and experience through immersion.
- I began a long relationship with someone who remains an important part of my professional support network.
- There was a generational gap between our hard skillsets.
- I didn’t frequently get opportunities to push the limits of my skills or creative sensibilities.
- Some of the work and clients became less appealing over the years as my interests matured; I sought more opportunities for growth.
My Second Mentor
It was the summer after my first year of design school and I’d been working alongside my first mentor for a couple years. It surprised me to learn that his wife was a renowned food photographer. He got me a second job managing her studio while I worked a design internship. Despite not being a designer, she became my second mentor. I learned far more from her than at my internship that summer.
My old mentor left agency life behind for a more flexible freelance routine, but his wife was the hardest hustler I had ever met. Alongside shooting, she ran a brick-and-mortar studio that doubled as an event space. She had a lot more administrative overhead to manage. She set the bar high for me and pushed me very hard, but never failed to praise and reward me when I met her expectations.
- I learned a ton about entrepreneurship and the day-to-day details of running a business (versus freelancing).
- Managing and facilitating larger on-site productions became second nature. Necessity forced me to learn many things quickly.
- I began to understand that I liked providing value more than making things. I felt most rewarded when my skills worked in tandem to maximize the value I could provide.
- My hard skills and career trajectory were even more misaligned than they were with my previous mentor.
- Working two jobs led to my first experience with burnout the following semester.
- I possessed neither the foresight nor soft skills to make lasting connections in a parallel creative industry.
My Last Mentor
My last mentor was assigned to me in design school. In hindsight, I didn’t have the social/emotional maturity to take full advantage of that relationship. The fact that school was a more pressurized environment exacerbated this. I loved my mentor’s energy as a person, but her communication style wasn’t compatible with mine. I felt that she was rather abstract and indirect at times. Even though I studied graphic design in a program of my choice, the perfect mentor was elusive. Finding someone with a matching philosophy, skillset, and communication style was difficult. Prompted by our skillset incongruence, my mentor instructed me to seek other advisors. This became an obstacle to transparency, resulting in negative feedback on important work.
- She bolstered my focus on ethics. She once said she’d eat canned soup every night if it meant she got to do the work that made her proud.
- She never stopped encouraging me to write.
- I grew after-the-fact by learning from my failures.
- Our communication styles were incompatible.
- Our philosophies, skills, and career trajectories were somewhat mismatched.
- The pressurized environment and academic consequences led to a decline in my confidence.
Key Takeaways from My Mentorship Experiences
- One of the most crucial aspects of a mentor-mentee relationship is communicational compatibility. Ideas don’t mean anything (or may even become harmful) when lost in translation.
- Experience is the best teacher. Sometimes, it’s quite important that a mentor has walked the (approximate) path that a mentee would like to take in their career.
- Despite a mismatch in hard skills or career trajectory, a mentee can still learn a lot from a mentor. Sometimes what complements a mentee’s hard skills and fills in the gaps can be just as — if not more — important to their long-term success.
- A good mentor will challenge mentees, hold them accountable, and examine failures to create teachable moments, but will also remember to reward and praise mentees, emphasizing their strengths.
- Good mentors usually ask a lot of questions before giving advice. Inquiry before judgment is a strong general principle for teachers.
- Mentees are responsible for pulling the best out of their mentors — not just the other way around. Mentees must be proactive and learn to actively solicit mentor input to meet their unique needs.
My most recent relationship with a mentor was my most difficult, but I may have grown the most from it. I learned how to be more proactive and ask for what I need. I realized how important a good cultural and environmental fit is to the success of individuals and institutions. I learned about my limitations and what I could do to address them.
Overall, my experiences have left me with a desire for a mentor whose philosophy, experience, and goals more closely match my interests. I’m at a point in my career where I know a bit more about what I want than I did in design school. Failing that, at least I know which questions I’ve got to ask to find the right answers. Finding a strong fit and learning from community feedback are what I’m most excited about when it comes to starting a new mentorship program.
I’d like to conclude this story with some wisdom from Sister Corita Kent: a notable educator in the arts. Below are her famous rules for the Immaculate Heart College Art Department. Many of them apply to relationships between mentors and mentees.
RULE 1: Find a place you trust, and then try trusting it for awhile.
RULE 2: General duties of a student — pull everything out of your teacher; pull everything out of your fellow students.
RULE 3: General duties of a teacher — pull everything out of your students.
RULE 4: Consider everything an experiment.
RULE 5: Be self-disciplined — this means finding someone wise or smart and choosing to follow them. To be disciplined is to follow in a good way. To be self-disciplined is to follow in a better way.
RULE 6: Nothing is a mistake. There’s no win and no fail, there’s only make.
RULE 7: The only rule is work. If you work it will lead to something. It’s the people who do all of the work all of the time who eventually catch on to things.
RULE 8: Don’t try to create and analyze at the same time. They’re different processes.
RULE 9: Be happy whenever you can manage it. Enjoy yourself. It’s lighter than you think.
RULE 10: “We’re breaking all the rules. Even our own rules. And how do we do that? By leaving plenty of room for X quantities.” (John Cage)
HELPFUL HINTS: Always be around. Come or go to everything. Always go to classes. Read anything you can get your hands on. Look at movies carefully, often. Save everything — it might come in handy later.
There should be new rules next week.