Don’t hold back — the secret to a happier life

Ignore this if you move from one partner to the next, ignore this if you feel 18 when your actually 13, ignore this if you have more than one true lover, ignore this if you don’t want a great life full of spontaneity and happiness.

If you want inspiration go somewhere else, if you want a formula go somewhere else, however, if you want to work hard for those precious moments in life, if you want to toil for that moment which lingers all day, your at the right place.

What does it take to keep liking, living and loving? You may argue, does it really take anything to keep living and loving, it just happens? Well if you’re a firm believer of the latter, don’t read ahead, because you don’t need to.

Now let’s go for it, read it all and consume it all.

The complex emotional or psychological interaction between people is the most important aspect to keep the living and loving alive, it is critical, its called chemistry. Without chemistry what is a relationship? it is an acquaintance, a colleague, an associate, a friend. Now a lot of people are happy with that and I’m more than happy if that’s fine with you, but not all are happy without chemistry.

Life is so easy to formulate but difficult to execute, if I had a set of to-do’s I would, zip up more when arguing, unzip more when not arguing. Never say anything ill about my partners parents, a big no no which cant be overstepped. Don’t hesitate to catch a peck on the cheek, small kiss or big kiss whenever you feel like, striking spontaneity in desire creates big bullseye’s of liking and loving.

Workout more, sweat more, exercise more, go for a run, take your bicycle out for a 5 km ride, do your yoga, all of this makes you feel light, young and energetic, it makes you feel good about yourself. When you feel good about yourself, you are more optimistic, less pessimistic, more funny, less grumpy, more naughty and less boring. And when you are all of the above, you do one thing which keeps liking, living and loving going on, it makes you and your partner happy.

Be simple, be kind, be smart, dress well, don’t grump if your partner din’t squeeze the tooth paste tube from the bottom, be lazy but not in bed and definitely not when you get up in the morning. Don’t fret about how busy you are now, take out time from your phone and spend that on your partner, you will get much better outcomes.

Define responsibilities and don’t oversee each other’s day to day tasks. Don’t grouch when they don’t do it up to your expectations, instead lower your own expectations. Fill each other’s lives with small surprises (a rose after work, a sudden coffee date, a romantic song, the list is endless) rather than the clichéd, expensive planned anniversary surprise. If you start now, before you realize it will be your way of life encouraging liking, living and loving.

Caress your partners hand once in a while, go for a ride, drive, walk, do whatever you like. Mix it up once in a while with your partners preferences and likes. Soon both of you will like each others activities and set your own romantic routine.

Relive your old days, take out your old log book, your old diary, go a step further this time then what you did the last time around. Try to visit that perfect place where both of you were happy, the moment which both of you can’t forget. Try to fit in your old jeans or your old dress or whatever less or more you want to fit into for your partner. Act stupid but don’t forget the naughtiness.

Sing to your partner, if you can’t put on coldplay, robbie williams or whatever works for you and your partner. Create a joint playlist but don’t forget to fight for your song on the list ;)

Don’t dance if you can’t, let your partner dance for you if they can and are willing. Switch off the light and do your monkey dance, remember the sweat, the exercise and what it can do to you, take a nap, be lazy, grin and be happy.

Ideas can’t stop and don’t stop, you don’t need to either. What are you waiting for? start your toil, you’ll live happier.