Speaking of Crushes

Jules and I both confess to crushes on both alto and his partner David Montgomery. I believe she favors alto, while I split my affections more equitably.

How, you might ask, can two hetero white women a couple of continents apart maintain crushes on two gay Canadian men? Brainy men who love words, who bring new meaning to the term eloquence. Each with a very different sense of humor and a willingness to exercise it regularly. Each knows who he is and is who he is. They even have a dog. Mr. Molesley. What’s not to love?

alto discusses the fact that David Montgomery not only supports, but also encourages, his personal growth through pursuing his agnosticism, all the while in a committed relationship with a Priest of the Church of England. Each allows space for the other to grow his life within his own values.

Here’s the thing: one’s sexual identity has nothing to do with anything.

Alto and David are not two gay men. They are people. As are Jules and I. You and I.

Respect and acceptance. It’s that simple. And that complicated. Who could ask for more? Who hasn’t settled for less?”