I don’t support the Women’s March. Here is why.
I support people’s right to assemble. If people want to gather to celebrate the existence of potatoes, go ahead.
Nevertheless, I also have the right to disagree with the celebration of the potato and call it a sham.
(I don’t, though. Potatoes are awesome).
Some causes are futile. Protesting Islamic misogyny, for example, is a nice gesture, but it won’t change anything if you the protest happens anywhere but in that region.
I don’t think the Women’s March was futile. I think it did send a powerful message. My problem is that I’m not sure what the message is.
I live in South America, a society that still has a lot of institutional sexism. Does this mean I’m denied my rights? Tricky question. Rights in general are often infringed here for everybody, whether you’re a man or a woman.
Yet, I’m not oppressed. I went to College, I wasn’t forced to get married after I got pregnant, and I started a business on my own and I earn my own money. I take every choice about me on my own.
But, I’m not the rule.
Here is a random thought. I was watching West Side Story and I realised that the ones singing about how “America” is the land of freedom are the women. They aren’t wrong. On average, USA offers more rights and more freedom to women than many other places in the world:
“But women in USA still suffer oppression!”.
No. Oppression means having your rights denied by an authority. For this to be true, women in USA would have to be denied the right to vote, speak, using the law, own property or take decisions, all based on the fact they are women.
Being called names on the street is not oppression. Having no representation in media is not oppression. An idiot told you that you deserve to be raped? Disgusting. Still, that doesn’t remove your right to be heard in a trial.
Christopher Wilson of Rebel Media went to the Women’s March in Toronto and pointed out those differences. Funny how it’s always the people with more rights the ones that use the relativism card. “Our struggle is as important” or “who cares who suffered the most?”.
Of course we should care. Of course it should matter. It should matter because it points out the two big problems: one, we steal the spotlight away from people with real struggles and oppression, and two, it shows that, because we’re unable to make a real change in the lives of people who really need it, it’s easier to pretend we suffer as much as they are, to the point of believing we’re indeed victims of an imaginary oppression and exaggerate minor issues that we can solve with the weapons we already have.
So, it’s time to accept it: women in US (also Canada and Europe) are not only rightful citizens of the first world but they are privileged. Any inequality that they may suffer is not due to their gender, but to other different aspects that aren’t exclusive to women.
And, yes, many times, these aspects are consequences of their own choices.
I’ve participated in marches. I support them. My people once marched to stop a terrible candidate from winning. She lost. Twice. Maybe the Women’s March should have happened before Trump, to stop him. (although the other option wasn’t exactly a feminist beacon: google Hillary’s ties with Saudi Arabia). But alas, it didn’t.
Now, some people are claiming Trump will remove women’s rights. Unless Trump specifically proclaims Sharia Law, I think women’s rights in US are pretty safe. What many are protesting is the removal of privileges and special treatment and well, I don’t support that. No one should.